“Do you still like me?” Maybe you ask your S.O. for the hundredth time, even if they JUST reassured you.Or, you replay that conversation you had last night with them again for the thousandth time. What did I do this time?
“Do you still like me?” Maybe you ask your S.O. for the hundredth time, even if they JUST reassured you.
Or, you replay that conversation you had last night with them again for the thoudsandth time. What did I do this time? Why are they acting cold again?
They head out to an event, and you check your phone consistently. What if they meet someone hotter, cooler, smarter, and they decide to leave me?
Here’s how anxious attachment might show up in your life:
Friendships:
Romantic Relationships:
Work:
Maybe you’re exhausted by these thoughts. It’s like you’re trapped in a mental prison. These thoughts replay in your head over, and over, and over again.
Worst, maybe you’ve lost people because of these thoughts. But, you just can’t seem to control them.
Your brain takes in millions of bits of information every second.
Early experiences create a map of the world to tell your brain what to think.
Your early experiences are the foundation of the house you build in adult life.
As a child, if your caregivers correctly responded to your needs, you likely feel safe in relationships.
This means: you trust others, feel loved, find it easy to be honest and open.
If your caregivers didn’t meet your needs, you may feel unsafe now as an adult.
You see the world through a lens of shame or fear.
Relationships feel hard and stressful - you have an insecure attachment.
All without us realizing that we had been wearing a pair of rose-tinted distorted glasses.
Do your relationships feel emotionally intense? Like a battle field?
That’s because insecure attachment can trigger strong emotional reactions.
It’s why you had such emotional roller-coasters with that person who always put up a wall. It’s because you trigger each other.
Attachment shapes the way you think, feel, and connect.
Every thought you have about your worth and relationships can be traced back to these early patterns.
Unfortunately, our stress, anxiety and low self-esteem is linked to our attachment too.
Maybe you feel you’re constantly walking on eggshells, afraid of making mistakes.
Our attachment style might’ve also caused us misunderstandings and conflict. Maybe you were just trying to get closer to them, but you come across as too clingy or demanding… when all you want is to feel safe.
Our patterns in relationships don’t just disappear as we grow older — they follow us until we consciously work on them.
Your attachment style is not your fault, and it can be changed.
We all have the power to build stronger, healthier connections, and feel more at peace.
Step 1: Practice Self-Soothing
Learn to calm yourself when emotions feel overwhelming. Try deep breathing, meditation, or a quiet walk. Journaling can also help you sort through your thoughts. The goal is to feel okay even when things seem uncertain.
Step 2: Build Better Relationships
Healthy relationships are built on trust and communication. Start by setting clear boundaries. Let people know what you need without fear. Choose friends and partners who respect you and make you feel secure.
Step 3: Identify Triggers and Patterns
Pay attention to what sets off your anxiety. Is it when someone doesn’t text back? When plans change? Once you know your triggers, you can work on responding in healthier ways. Over time, you’ll start creating new patterns that feel less stressful and more secure.
As a person who stumbled onto Attached, I didn't know what to expect. I worked with other apps, for meditation, journaling as well as having motivational quotes every day but nothing like Attached which put these features all into one easy to use app.
Attached is by far, one of the best apps making use of the advances in AI to make a customized approach to attending to ones emotional and mental needs. I'm glad I got to stumble upon Attached, and I'm sure anyone who reads will too.
Betoc
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Attached has been an incredibly valuable tool for me, not just for relationships, but for my overall well-being. [It's] led to a shift in my perspective towards a more realistic and optimistic outlook on life. The personalized meditations have helped me navigate moments of anxiety, and knowing there is an active community makes me feel less alone. Attached has been a very worthwhile investment for me. I'd highly recommend it to anyone looking to improve their mental health and relationships.
Lisa
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This is the best app I have ever seen in my life I clicked thinking it was a scam or [something] you have to pay for a huge amount of money [...] it's so so so so so worth it, I've tried a lot of therapists and this is equal to the best therapist I'm seeing right now And plus it's just in your pocket, I swear to god I didn't expect this!
B7e
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It’s helped me process a lot of my emotions in a healthy manner. I’d say I’m in the best state of my life and it’s helped me identify a lot of key points. The AI is sincerely useful but more than that, the people are honest
Nile
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I normally pay for a very expensive therapist. I was triggered and then spent the past hour talking to Eden. I was able to go deep. It’s an on demand therapist that would usually cost hundred of dollars an hour. Wow!
J
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I've really enjoyed using this app. It has been the most helpful therapy app of the few I've tried. The team behind it is always improving the experience and seems to really care about the program. It has been a great additional tool to use alongside my other traditional therapies
Craig
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Attached has been incredibly helpful in addressing my avoidant tendencies in my relationship. The app provides insightful guidance and practical advice that has made a real difference in how I navigate emotional challenges. Highly recommend it for anyone looking to improve their relationship dynamics.
Adrian
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This is a wonderful app, supported by a wonderful community. I'd highly recommend checking them out.
Phoenix
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Attached has been monumental in helping me understand why I have my behaviors. I love seeing my progress and I use the ‘Help’ mode to feel better daily. It’s SO helpful for my anxious attachment.
Zedd
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After years of painful anxious attachment, Attached provided a clear path forward to heal. I use the app daily, and feel the benefits from the mindfulness that Eden has armed me with. I’m calmer, more relaxed and present than ever!
Gabriel
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Attached made me realize that I not only feel anxious in my relationships, but also with family. I love the patterns feature in the journaling!
Ethan
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